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Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

Daniel Goleman (Goodreads Author)

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Everyone knows that high IQ is no guarantee of success, happiness, or virtue, but until Emotional Intelligence, we could only guess why. Daniel Goleman's brilliant report from the frontiers of psychology and neuroscience offers startling new insight into our "two minds"—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny.

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Published September 26th 2006 by Bantam (first published 1995)

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Nov 30, 2008 Taka rated it it was ok · review of another edition

Shelves: japan_jul07-aug11, social-science

Descriptive but not very practical--

The main and only thesis of the book is: emotional intelligence is important. That's it. Goleman spends over 13 hours in this audiobook to pretty much buttress the thesis with evidence from various sources including psychology, medicine, and educational programs.

The content is interesting at times but overall, the message got repetitive and I was looking for any useful information to put to use in my daily life from the book to no avail.

Unfortunately the book ...more

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Aug 01, 2010 Jim rated it it was amazing

Shelves: neuroscience-cognition-behavior, favorites

This visionary book by Daniel Goleman is one of the most important in my collection. I see it as a seminal contribution to understanding the human condition, and a roadmap of practical steps for living better, both within ourselves and with those around us.

I begin by recommending the excellent review by Lars - a clear, well-written summary of the major points in the book.

Here I will focus on 3 topics from the book: 1) the evolution of brain mechanisms for emotional and rational behavior; 2) how ...more

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Dec 11, 2015 Jan-Maat added it · review of another edition

Shelves: 20th-century, business-management-pm, non-fiction, science, society

Emotional Intelligence is a book that was recommended to read on a management course that I took, oh, some time way back towards the beginning of the century. The course was taught by a middle aged white woman from southern-Africa. She also recommend Covey's book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, but in my enthusiasm that didn't put me off from reading this, perhaps because of an exercise she conducted with us in which you think of something that you'd like to do but haven't done and Emotional Intelligence is a book that was recommended to read on a management course that I took, oh, some time way back towards the beginning of the century. The course was taught by a middle aged white woman from southern-Africa. She also recommend Covey's book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, but in my enthusiasm that didn't put me off from reading this, perhaps because of an exercise she conducted with us in which you think of something that you'd like to do but haven't done and then trace back the reasons why you have not done this thing until you get down to fear. This resonated with me (view spoiler).

Anyroad, thenabouts I read Emotional Intelligence in a double edition with Working with Emotional Intelligence. I lent that volume to a colleague and never got it back, I got a second copy which I lent to my Mother and I never got that back either (view spoiler). Finally in recent times I fell across a copy of Emotional Intelligence. The volume was in a bad way, browned and battered. More ready to prop up a wobbly table leg than to be read. The plus side of a book in this condition is that when you stand on a station platform reading in the mizzle as it pizzles down from December skies you accept this as part of the natural life cycle of a book. First treasured, finally read in all weathers and abandoned on a train.

Rereading this was a curious experience. I suppose I had absorbed so much from my first reading that reading it again much of what it said seemed self-evident. Plainly my appreciation of the role of emotion in thought had changed so much I could no longer understand and value the book as I did as a first time reader, although I still enjoyed the anecdote about a drunk on a Japanese metro train(view spoiler) .

You know how water trickles down through limestone in curious courses and cunning people in search of wisdom pour in coloured water to record how long it takes to flow out – there is something of that in rereading this book. It was first published in 1995 and while some ideas have flowed out in to the wider culture others are still percolating through- Jon Cabot Zinn and his Mindfulness programme are referred to here while we only had a flurry of related articles in the UK press and news over the last eighteen months or so, sometimes the cultural currents take very circuitous routes indeed.

Alternatively I could see this book as a Matrushka. Nestled within it the next generations of popular science books, the Malcolm Gladwell one about needing to accomplish 10,000 hours of practice in a given field, Csikszentmihalyi's one on Flow, and doubtless others I didn't recognise.

I would recommend it to those who were in the same position as myself some years ago, not bent backed and round shouldered, but schooled in thinking in terms of rational decision making which didn't seem adequate when looking at the surrounding office let alone the wider world, as a first primer in to the hows and implications of emotion in thought from families to workplaces. And as a corrective this is important when one happens to live in a country with elections, jury trials, and a market economy. The assumption of rationality sits alongside explicit attempts to tap into our emotional responses (view spoiler). Tuning into our emotions, Goleman argues, is the first step in avoiding being entirely driven by them.

In terms of history, culture, society, all those big things and what is needed to bring abut change this book reminds me again of water percolating down through limestone. Things take their own time, where and when they emerge is not something that can be known in advance. Looking over this book again it strikes me how twenty years is barely a blink of an eye when it comes to changing fundamental mental models. ...more

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Jul 04, 2010 Lars Guthrie rated it really liked it

After several years of looking at this seminal work on my to-read list, I am happy to have finally read it. It should be on the to-read list of educators and parents.

To learn and to grow, children first need to be ready to learn and to grow. However, how and what we need to learn today can differ significantly from the requirements of our ancestors. Evolution equipped us with an early warning system, the limbic system of our brains and its marvelous filter, the amygdala.

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Feb 01, 2008 Andrew rated it it was ok

It certainly contains a lot of useful info, but boy, is it ever dense! Reading it is like hacking your way through a dense jungle with a dull machete. It must also be noted that it is most definitely of the school of 80's/90's "hard-wired" thinking about the brain, and hard-sells the view that, to put it simply, mind comes from brain, and not the other way around. In other words, nature, not nurture. (For comparison, try Sharon Begley's Train Your Mind, Change Your Brain, which, oddly enough, ha ...more

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Oct 18, 2007 Tina rated it it was amazing

I read this book after a big break up and it really opened my eyes to how I contributed to that break up. It's extremely important to have emotional intelligence and this is a fascinating discussion behind the theory and science of EI.

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Oct 04, 2016 Amir Tesla rated it liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: communications-and-relationship, psychology, influence-and-leadership

Recommended to: If you think you don't have a high IQ and thus, your are condemned to a mediocre life.

What this book is about:
The apostleship of the book is twofold, Firstly it is to convince you that EQ matters far more than IQ in achieving high levels of success and it does it perfectly through providing N+1 lengthy repetitive case studies.
Second, it provides an almost accurate introduction to what EQ is, what elements contribute to a high EQ and finally what the consequences of strength and ...more

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Oct 30, 2015 د. حمدان rated it liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: psycology

ذكاء المشاعر – دانيال غولمان

دانيال غولمان هو أخصائي نفسي أمريكي من مواليد عام 1946 كان يكتب عن الدماغ وعلوم السلوك بشكل دوري في جريدة النيويورك تايمز وقد حقق كتابه هذا والذي نشر عام 1995 نجاحاً ساحقاً.. وتصدر لوائح الأكثر مبيعاً لفترة طويلة.

يتحدث الكتاب والذي أعتبر كتاباً ثورياً في زمنه. عن كون الذكاء العاطفي.. أو ذكاء المشاعر هو أحد معايير النجاح للفرد. وهذا أمرٌ ينسف الفكرة السائدة عن معدل ذكاء الفرد بكونه المعيار الوحيد المحدد لقدرة الفرد على النجاح.

وجدتُ شيئاً غريباً فيما يخص النسخة العربية ذكاء المشاعر – دانيال غولمان

دانيال غولمان هو أخصائي نفسي أمريكي من مواليد عام 1946 كان يكتب عن الدماغ وعلوم السلوك بشكل دوري في جريدة النيويورك تايمز وقد حقق كتابه هذا والذي نشر عام 1995 نجاحاً ساحقاً.. وتصدر لوائح الأكثر مبيعاً لفترة طويلة.

يتحدث الكتاب والذي أعتبر كتاباً ثورياً في زمنه. عن كون الذكاء العاطفي.. أو ذكاء المشاعر هو أحد معايير النجاح للفرد. وهذا أمرٌ ينسف الفكرة السائدة عن معدل ذكاء الفرد بكونه المعيار الوحيد المحدد لقدرة الفرد على النجاح.

وجدتُ شيئاً غريباً فيما يخص النسخة العربية من الكتاب وهو من ترجمة هشام الحناوي ومن مشروع مكتبة الأسرة. وهو أن الكتاب بنسخته الأصلية يتكون من خمسة أجزاء. بينما النسخة العربية تتكون من ثلاثة فقط. ففي النسخة العربية توجد هذه الأجزاء:
المخ الإنفعالي، طبيعة ذكاء المشاعر، وتطبيقات ذكاء المشاعر. والنسخة الإنجليزية تحتوي بالإضافة إلى ما سبق: نوافذ الفرص، والأمية العاطفية. وقد وجدتُ إختزال هذين الجزئين أمراً غير مبرر. وقد وجدتُ ترجمة أخرى للكتاب لليلى الجبالي وهي تحتوي على الأجزاء الخمسة كاملة.

لقد وضع في هذا الكتاب، الأساس للدور الذي تلعبه المشاعر بالتحكم في سلوك الفرد الإنساني وذلك من خلال تقسيم ملكة العقل البشري إلى العقل المنطقي، والعقل الإنفعالي. حيث يكون العقل المنطقي بالمفهوم الذي نعرفه عن العقل. أي تحكيم المنطق والسلوك الإرادي. بينما يكون العقل الإنفعالي بالتحكم بالمشاعر.. والسلوك الغريزي إن أمكننا قول ذلك. ومن المهم هنا، أن نتفهم أنه في بعض الحالات يطغى العقل الإنفعالي على العقل المنطقي.

عملية طغيان العقل الإنفعالي على العقل المنطقي قد لا تكون سيئة كما يمكنها أن تبدو للوهلة الأولى. فالعقل المنطقي يأخذ وقتاً أطول لتحليل الأمور بشكل منطقي. بينما قد يوضع الفرد في مواقف تستدعي رد فعل شبه فوري.. ولا تحتمل التأخير. وهنا يستلم العقل الإنفعالي زمام المبادرة بما يسمح له أن ينقذ حياتك في بعض الأحيان. وفي أحيان أخرى بأن يجعلك ترتكب جريمة !

بكل تأكيد هذه أفكار ثورية. ولربما تكون الإرهاصات الأولى التي سمحت لثورة القلب على سلطة الدماغ رغم أن هذا الكتاب لم يتحدث إطلاقاً عن دور القلب في المشاعر الإنسانية إلا من باب المجاز كما هو سائد في الأوساط العلمية آنذاك. وهذا قبل أبحاث هيلين فيشر وأرمور وغيرهما.

يتحدث الكتاب في كل جزء وعلى شكل فصول قصيرة عن الإثبات تلو الإثبات لأهمية دور المشاعر في تحديد السلوك البشري واتخاذ قرارات حاسمة في حياة البشر بل إن الأمر قد يذهب بعيداً في تنشيط مقاومتهم للمرض أو جعلهم أكثر عرضة للأمراض. وقد بيّن قبل ذلك الدور الذي من الممكن أن يلعبه العقل الإنفعالي في إضافة الإستقرار على مؤسسة الزواج وحتى في العلاقة ما بين الموظفين برؤسائهم في العمل. قبل أن ينتقل إلى ماهية الفرص التي قد تعطينا إياه نسبة عالية من ذكاء المشاعر على صعيد العائلة ومعالجة الأزمات العاطفية النفسية لينتقل أخيراً إلى الثمن الذي يدفعه أميو العواطف وكيفية تدريب الفرد على التجاوب العاطفي ليزيد من إحتمالات نجاحه في الحياة.

باختصار، الكتاب جيد جداً ومفيد للغاية. لكنه دسم جداً.. وقد يبعث الملل في نفس القاريء أحياناً بسبب التكرار. لكنه برأيي أحد أهم الكتب التي قد تغيّر نظرتك لنفسك من وجهة نظر علم النفس. ...more

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Apr 24, 2008 Jim rated it it was ok

Shelves: non-fiction

There are some interesting things in the book, things that are hard to disagree with, such as emotional skills and self-knowledge are important. I think a lot of people who liked this book focused on that self-help aspect. I have no problem with that. My problems with this book stem from the wider claims Goleman makes for EQ as a mental function.

Goleman bases this aspect of his theory on some whopping assumptions. The biggest one is the idea that emotional intelligence even exists. The main asp There are some interesting things in the book, things that are hard to disagree with, such as emotional skills and self-knowledge are important. I think a lot of people who liked this book focused on that self-help aspect. I have no problem with that. My problems with this book stem from the wider claims Goleman makes for EQ as a mental function.

Goleman bases this aspect of his theory on some whopping assumptions. The biggest one is the idea that emotional intelligence even exists. The main aspects of EQ he posits (self-awareness, social-awareness,etc.) aren't objectively measurable and there is no proof that they even correlate with one another on a neurological level, which we would see if these aspects were part of a measurable form of human intelligence.

Another assumption is that there is an acceptable norm of emotional intelligence. This raises the question, what about people who don't meet the norm? Under Goleman's narrow definition, people with autism, even many on the high-functioning end of the spectrum, would not qualify as possessing a desirable EQ level, neither would the introvert who prefers books to people. It is here that I found Goleman's ideas to be particularly objectionable. There's a whiff of something truly unpleasant here. However, we know that even people with severe autism are able to learn emotional skills.

Goleman makes the grand claim that, throughout history, great leaders all had high EQ levels. (As a historian, this made me cringe when I first read it.) Unless one has access to a person's psychiatric records, it is always extremely problematic to make all but the most qualified claims about the psychology of historical figures.

The EQ theory has many of the same flaws as theories of IQ. Older IQ tests assumed that intelligence was easily measured and that there was a single kind of intelligence. One frequently encountered people who had low IQ scores but who functioned intelligently or had highly advanced skills in some areas but not others. We now speak of multiple intelligences, seeing them as a skills set. We might be born with a tendency to some intelligences over others, but these are shaped by enviromental factors and can be influenced through learning, rather than something neurologically innate.

I'm willing to accept the idea that people are born with a range of abilities to recognize and respond to emotional interaction. I think these emotional responses are learned behaviors to a much greater degree than Goleman would allow. The problem with books like Goleman's is that it presents one side of a very contentious debate, but it might be the only book on the subject many people will read.

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Aug 25, 2018 Raya راية rated it really liked it · review of another edition

كتاب ممتع جداً ومفيد
يوضّح أهمية المشاعر ودورها في حياتنا.
وكيف تؤثر فيها و على اتخاذ قراراتنا و إدارة حياتنا ككل.

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Apr 30, 2007 Kristl rated it liked it

Recommends it for: anyone who throws things when angry or doesn't cry, ever

I had to read this book for a leadership academy I was in and I found this to be a surprisingly good experience.

The book introduces and explains the concept of "emotional intelligence," which, since beginning to read the book, I see is so much more important than almost any other awareness one could have on a day-to-day basis personally and professionally.

Don't be shocked, if, in describing the many levels of emotional intelligence or lack thereof, you immediately think of friends, family, and c ...more

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Dec 16, 2015 Wafaa Golden rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

Shelves: ebooks

الذّكاء العاطفي
يتحدّث الكتاب عن كيفيّة التّحكّم بردّات الفعل العاطفيّة والانفعاليّة..
أو ما هو تأثير ردّات الفعل تلك سواء كانت إيجابيّة أم سلبيّة..
الكتاب جيّد جدّاً في موضوعه لا بل ممتاز..
أعتقد أنّه من الضّروري أن يقرأه الجميع لما فيه من نصائح وقصص واقعيّة تؤيّد الفكرة التي وضِع الكتاب من أجلها..
ومن أراد أن يسأل ماذا يعني الذّكاء العاطفي؟
أجيبه باختصار بأنّه التّحكّم بردّات الفعل.
فكم من العلاقات الاجتماعيّة والعائليّة قَضي عليها لهذا السّبب..
وكم من الصّداقات دمّرت بسببه أيضاً..
فرغم التّعريف البسيط ...more

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Jan 26, 2016 عمر الحمادي rated it really liked it · review of another edition

"أي شخص يمكن أن يغضب ، هذا سهل ، لكن ما ليس سهلا هو أن تغضب من الشخص المناسب في الوقت المناسب للسبب المناسب وبالشكل المناسب" أرسطو

عندما ضحى أبوين بحياتهما من أجل إنقاذ طفلتيهما عن طريق دفعها خارج نافذة القطار الذي سقط في النهر ، فإن علماء الارتقاء الحيوي يفسرون دافع هذه التضحية بأنه لضمان التناسل والتكاثر البشري وضمان توريث الجينات إلى الأجيال التالية ، لكن الأب لا يعرف هذه التفسيرات الداروينية لأن دافعه كان الحب و الحب الخالص فقط الذي يقوم على الإيثار، مما يدل أن مشاعرنا هي مرشدنا الأساسي الأول
"أي شخص يمكن أن يغضب ، هذا سهل ، لكن ما ليس سهلا هو أن تغضب من الشخص المناسب في الوقت المناسب للسبب المناسب وبالشكل المناسب" أرسطو

عندما ضحى أبوين بحياتهما من أجل إنقاذ طفلتيهما عن طريق دفعها خارج نافذة القطار الذي سقط في النهر ، فإن علماء الارتقاء الحيوي يفسرون دافع هذه التضحية بأنه لضمان التناسل والتكاثر البشري وضمان توريث الجينات إلى الأجيال التالية ، لكن الأب لا يعرف هذه التفسيرات الداروينية لأن دافعه كان الحب و الحب الخالص فقط الذي يقوم على الإيثار، مما يدل أن مشاعرنا هي مرشدنا الأساسي الأول ، ويشير خبراء الاجتماع إلى تفوق القلب على العقل في الأوقات الحرجة، فمشاعرنا تقودنا إلى مواجهة المآزق ، وكل عاطفة تدفعنا للتعامل بشكل جيد مع التحديات المستمرة حتى أصبحت قيمة البقاء متأصلة في تكويننا العاطفي مهيأة لمجابهة هذه المواقف.

غدة اللوزة "الأميجدالا" هي المسؤولة عن السطو العصبي الذي يتحدث عنه القاتل حينما يقول أنه أخذته فورة الغضب على حين غرة، وعندما تم نزعها من أحد المرضى بسبب إصابته بالصرع فقد المريض جميع اهتمامه في العالم من حوله ولم يعد يعرف حتى أمه بعدما فقد مشاعره وتحول إلى كيان متجمد.

إن الأشخاص الأكثر ذكاءاً يمكن أن يتصفوا في نفس الوقت بالإخفاق العاطفي والرعونة وعدم ضبط التصرفات التلقائية ، هناك علاقة تربط بين حاصل الذكاء و مستوى الأداء لكن ذلك ليس بقاعدة عامة ، فحاصل الذكاء يسهم في تحديد ٢٠٪ فقط‏ من العوامل التي تحدد مستوى النجاح في الحياة.

الشخص الغاضب يفقد قدرته على التسامح والتعقل مع فورة الكاتولامين والأدرينالين والتي تزيد من حدة الغضب وتكون كل أفكار الغاضب قد تبلورت حول الانتقام والنيل من الشخص الآخر في غفلة تامة عن كل العواقب المحتملة ، فيفقد الغاضب الإرشاد الإدراكي ويكون أسير أكثر الاستجابات بدائية و عفوية، إن نزوع الشخص للغضب يعد من أكبر المؤشرات إلى احتمال موته في سن مبكرة والتي تفوقت على عوامل أخرى مثل التدخين وارتفاع ضغط الدم و الكوليسترول ! وذلك بسبب تكرر زيادة معدل نبضات القلب وارتفاع الضغط عند الغاضب وذلك مما يسبب تشكل أسرع للصفيحات في الشرايين ، فالغضب وحده ليس هو السبب لكن قد يكون أي شعور سلبي حاد يعمل على ضخ هرمونات الصغط في كل أنحاء الجسم.

تشكل المشاعر يلعب دوراً محوريا في تصرفات الإنسان ، فعندما يتجاهل مغتصب الأطفال مشاعر الخوف والإشمئزاز عند الأطفال فإنه يكون قد غلب مشاعر خياله المنحرف وليس روح التعاطف مع مشاعر الأطفال الحقيقية.

الكتاب ممتاز لكنه بحاجة إلى طول بال في القراءة. ...more

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Dec 05, 2017 Mimi rated it liked it

Recommended to Mimi by: IRL book club pick for summer 2017

Shelves: nonfiction, psychology, science, 2017

The subtitle "Why It Can Matter More Than IQ" is misleading.

It should be "Why It MIGHT Matter More Than IQ (provided you're comparing people of similar age, education, background, career, aspiration, social economic status, race, ethnicity, gender, and so on and so forth)."

The group that was looked at in this book was executives, and what the author found was that the thing that set these people apart from their peers and others vying for the same positions is people skills. When you're good wi ...more

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Jan 28, 2015 Mahmut Homsi rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: psychology, self-development

I think the best part of the book is when he explained about the five major components of the emotional intelligence as:

1. Self-awareness: Recognize and understand your own moods and motivations and their effect on others. To achieve this state, you must be able to monitor your own emotional state and identify your own emotions. Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
-Confidence
-Sense of humor (can laugh at self)
-Aware of your impression on others (can read the reactions of others to know how yo I think the best part of the book is when he explained about the five major components of the emotional intelligence as:

1. Self-awareness: Recognize and understand your own moods and motivations and their effect on others. To achieve this state, you must be able to monitor your own emotional state and identify your own emotions. Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
-Confidence
-Sense of humor (can laugh at self)
-Aware of your impression on others (can read the reactions of others to know how you are perceived)

2. Self-Regulation: Controlling your impulses—instead of being quick to react rashly, you can reign in your emotions and think before responding. You express yourself appropriately. Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
-Conscientious and take personal responsibility for your own work/deeds.
-Adaptable (and favorable) to change
-When someone is complaining or is rude to you, you do not respond in kind. You respond in a manner which would not escalate the situation. (At this point, you will also realize that when someone expresses anger at you, they’re not always angry at you; they’re often just angry and want to take it out on someone.)

3. Internal Motivation: Internal motivation is marked by an interest in learning. It is also self-improvement vs. a pursuit of wealth and status (as a pursuit of wealth and status is an external motivator). Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
-Initiative and the commitment to complete a task
-Perseverance in the face of adversity

4. Empathy: The ability to understand another person’s emotional reaction. This is only possible when one has achieved self-awareness—as one cannot understand others until they understand themselves. Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
-Perceptive of other’s emotions and taking an active interest in their concerns.
-Proactive—able to anticipate someone’s needs and the appropriate reaction.
-Social Situations such as office politics do not phase one who has a firm grasp of empathy.

5. Social Skills: Identifying social cues to establish common ground, manage relationships and build networks. Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
-Communication: Listening and responding appropriately
-Influence and Leadership: The ability to guide and inspire others
-Conflict Management: The ability to diffuse difficult situations using persuasion and negotiation. ...more

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Aug 15, 2007 Gage marked it as to-read

If you're like me, you're extremely leery of anything that reeks of pop psychology. But Emotional Intelligence has no such odor. First, author Daniel Goleman is the real deal. He has his PhD, of course, as do many snake oil salesmen, but unlike these others, Goleman has academic street cred: he founded an institute at Yale, heads up another at Rutgers, and wrote science columns for the New York Times.

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Apr 23, 2017 imane rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

Shelves: self-help

ان الغضب يجعل الشخص غبيا. عندما يضطرب الشخص عاطفيا يفقد القدرة على التصرف بطريقة صحيحة وعلى اتخاد القرارات السليمة. ان الذكاء الاجتماعي والذكاء العاطفي هو سر نجاح الفرد سواء في حياته الخاصة مع اسرته او في عمله. القدرة على التكيف والتناغم مع مشاعر الغير امور جد مهمة. عندما تريد نقد احدهم قم بنقد تصرفاته وافعاله ولا تقم بمهاجمة شخصه وهذا ما يسمى بالنقد البناء. ان للمشاعر السلبية كالحزن القلق والغضب تاثيرعلى صحتك الجسدية وقد تسبب لك العديد من الامراض كامراض القلب والمعدة والامعاء وارتفاع ضغط الدم . ...more

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Oct 05, 2011 Katja rated it really liked it

Emotional Intelligence produced such conflicting feelings in me that I am torn as to what to write about it. For the most part, it is well-written, intelligent and compelling. The messages are simple yet profound, and I have to agree that the importance of social and emotional skills can’t be understated. On some level I think Daniel Goleman and I think in much the same way, and even though the book is 15 years old now, on the whole it is as applicable as it ever was.

*disclaimer – angry rant co Emotional Intelligence produced such conflicting feelings in me that I am torn as to what to write about it. For the most part, it is well-written, intelligent and compelling. The messages are simple yet profound, and I have to agree that the importance of social and emotional skills can’t be understated. On some level I think Daniel Goleman and I think in much the same way, and even though the book is 15 years old now, on the whole it is as applicable as it ever was.

*disclaimer – angry rant coming up* On the other hand, it testifies to the importance of emotional intelligence, because if I had any less, this book would be lying in pieces in my backyard. One problem is that Goleman quite often makes the correlation = causation fallacy when citing research, which drives me bonkers. Secondly – and this is what really disappointed me - at several points throughout the book, he does one of the WORST possible things a non-fiction writer can do: he catastrophises. He shamelessly talks about the degradation of society, the decrease in moral fibre, and equates rising divorce rates with lower prospects for good relationships (I absolutely cannot stand the “divorce = unhappiness, marriage = happiness” argument – have we not progressed at all since the 19th century?).

He cites a study that found children in their teenage years are more moody, secretive and irritable than when they were children – and uses that to support an argument that people are getting unhappier across the lifespan (really? Because that sounds like ADOLESCENCE to me). What makes the doomsday predictions particularly embarrassing is the statistics he cites regarding rising violence and cocaine use, stating expert predictions that violent crime among the young would increase drastically in the years to come. Too bad for Goleman that this “crime boom” widely predicted in the 90s never happened, and that the cocaine bubble burst that decade – resulting in the rates of both violent crime and cocaine use in the US decreasing drastically. The simple fact is that if Daniel Goleman hadn’t been so set on his overblown doomsday scenarios, his book would have been so much better – more measured, more reasonable, and much less likely to make me throw up all over it.

Truthfully, he didn’t need all the catastrophising about the crumbling fibre of society to make a point for the importance of emotional intelligence – the rest of the book does that on its own. So all I can say is: on the whole it’s a great book, which could have been much better without the over-exaggerated scare tactics - much of which have since turned out to be false (which must be embarrassing for you, Daniel Goleman, but you deserved it resorting to arguments like that). I know that most of this review is an angry rant, but I've still given it four stars because I chose to be reasonable and not let those things be deal-breakers. I really did enjoy the vast majority of this book. Really. ...more

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Sep 10, 2013 Thomas rated it really liked it

Shelves: nonfiction, psychology

A great book that delves into the science behind emotional intelligence, the components that comprise the trait, and the practical applications of possessing EI. While I knew a decent amount of the information beforehand as a Psychology student, several points stood out to me, such as the explanation of child molesters' mindsets, the idea that abused children gain heightened emotional perceptiveness, and almost all of the brain-related information. My favorite sections appeared toward the end, w ...more

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Jun 25, 2018 Alok Mishra rated it really liked it

The book is informative and it can certainly be enjoyed by the readers - serious as well as casual page-flippers. The book has a lot of useful information for the first category readers and a number of interesting facts for the second category readers. I read it somewhere in-between and was delighted as well as informed.

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Apr 06, 2015 Paul Fulcher rated it it was ok · review of another edition

Shelves: 2015

A difficult book to review and my 2 stars are an honest reflection on what I gained personally from reading the book, rather than what the world gained from the book having been written.

This was clearly a groundbreaking and seminal work, particularly in bringing the important topic of emotional intelligence to a wide audience. However, that doesn't necessarily make it a worthwhile read 20 years later, particularly for those in search of practical advice.

There is a significant focus on how the b ...more

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Mar 14, 2015 Huda rated it really liked it · review of another edition

الكتاب جميل وناقش الموضوع بتحليل مفصل ودراسات وتفرع الى كل المواضيع المرتبطة فيه اللي ممكن تخطر على بالك.. تفاجأت من ارتباط هالموضوع بحياتنا اليومية وانفعالاتنا وردود أفعالنا من الصغر بالضبط من عمر شهور لمن نحس بالتعاطف او الشفقة مع الأطفال الآخرين ومحاولتنا مساعدتهم.. و هالنوع من الذكاء يمكن مظلوم صاحبه في البداية لأنه ما يعرف كيف يستغله وينميه وكل تعليمنا يقيس الذكاء العددي, اللغوي وغيرها.. لكن بالمستقبل احتمال كبير جدا انه راح ينجح اكثر من غيره لأن اختبارات الذكاء والقدرات ما تقيس قابلية المر ...more

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Dec 17, 2015 Lyn Elliott rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

Shelves: psychology

I read this years ago - the reading date of 2004 is entirely arbitrary and I'm writing this at the end of 2015.
I remember the essential messages vividly, especially his discussion of why emotional thresholds differ, and the importance of counting to 10 to let the rational brain kick in over the primitive amygdala response. A good deep breath goes a long way.
I love the concept of emotional intelligence - very useful in dealing with others.

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Jan 08, 2019 Marysya Rudska rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: non-fiction, popular-science

Якщо колись з’явиться клініка реабілітації від залежності від спонтанних книжкових покупок у моменти емоційної кризи, то ви мене знайдете там. Ця книжка була придбана абсолютно випадково й за іронією долі - це книжка про емоційний інтелект.
Це цікаве й корисне для мене читання. Я не знала раніше, про термін “емоційний інтелект”. А це, як не крути, дуже важливе явище в житті.
Буває розумна людина робить якусь абсолютну дурню, чи не може організувати себе і проявити в професії, або ж успішні в про Якщо колись з’явиться клініка реабілітації від залежності від спонтанних книжкових покупок у моменти емоційної кризи, то ви мене знайдете там. Ця книжка була придбана абсолютно випадково й за іронією долі - це книжка про емоційний інтелект.
Це цікаве й корисне для мене читання. Я не знала раніше, про термін “емоційний інтелект”. А це, як не крути, дуже важливе явище в житті.
Буває розумна людина робить якусь абсолютну дурню, чи не може організувати себе і проявити в професії, або ж успішні в професійному житті люди поводяться як ідіоти в стосунках. Причина криється, як каже автор, саме в браці певних частин емоційного інтелекту.
Гоулман включає в емоційний інтелект цілу низку явищ - розпізнавання емоцій, усвідомлення і керування ними, здатність до ефективної комунікації, здатність до самомотивації і т.д. Ця книга про емоційний інтелект, як про явище і про його вплив на різні сфери життя - на якість життя, здоров’я, здатність створювати і підтримувати стосунки тощо. Тут немає багато практичних порад, але, напевно, про це є інші книжки.
Гоулман підкреслює, що емоційний інтелект і IQ не пов'язані прямо між собою і часто саме емоційний інтелект має більший вплив на успіх у житті людини ніж IQ. Оптимістично додає, що якщо вам не пощастило розвинути навички емоційного інтелекту в дитинстві, то ще не пізно все виправити :)
На початку книжки є досить цікавий вступ про еволюцію нашого мозку і емоцій, про те, як власне все це функціонує у нас в голові. Про те, що наш неповороткий раціональний розум походить від блискавично швидкого, але не зовсім точного, емоційного розуму. І взагалі, як сильно вони пов’язані.
Багато уваги приділено дитинству, тому що це найліпший час для розвитку емоційного інтелекту. Хотілось би більш збалансованого підходу і більше інформації про можливості позитивних змін в дорослому віці.
Мені сподобався легкий стиль письма автора - читається легко, багато життєвих прикладів. Однак, формат книжки не дозволив глибоко розібрати кожен аспект, тому в мене залишилися враження, що деякі частини поверхневі. Надто про депресію. Також дещо обережно ставлюся до статистики та її інтерпретації. Статистика - це просто цифри і причини цих цифр не завжди очевидні. Книга відчувається як збірка ессеїв і замальовок на різні теми пов’язані з емоційним інтелектом. Мені бракувало структурованості й меншої кількості повторень одного і того ж.
Український переклад від Соломії-Любові Гумецької і редактура на цілком достойному рівні.
Загалом, це цікава книжка на цікаву тему. Залишає бажання знайти ще щось на тему емоційного інтелекту.
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Apr 23, 2017 Γιώργος Κατσούλας rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Αν και κάπως δημοσιοσχεσιτικο (δηλαδή σου λέει πως μπορείς να τα έχεις καλά με προϊσταμένους διευθυντές συναδελφους) είναι πολύ ενδιαφέρον

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Sep 27, 2007 Stevie rated it really liked it

Shelves: secular

Insightful book on the importance of relating well with others and being in tune with one's emotions.

Poignant Quotes:

...childhood and adolescence are critical windows of opportunity for setting down the essential emotional habits that will govern our lives.

...social intelligence is both distinct from academic abilities and a key part of what makes people do well in the practicalities of life.

social competence - how well or poorly people express their own feelings

With a complaint a person critici ...more

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Dec 20, 2016 Mon Maryum rated it it was ok

Shelves: e-title, non-fiction, burrowed-book

Firstly, I don't agree with the title of the book. One shouldn't matter more than the other but rather, there needs to be a balance of IQ, EQ and CQ. We need every aspect of intelligence and not just have a push-pull relationship like 'This is important but oh, this matters less that THAT intelligence".

Most of the contents in the books seemed unnecessary to me. It is mainly the author just rambling on and on about all the stories he heard in all his life of other people (or at least, it seems l Firstly, I don't agree with the title of the book. One shouldn't matter more than the other but rather, there needs to be a balance of IQ, EQ and CQ. We need every aspect of intelligence and not just have a push-pull relationship like 'This is important but oh, this matters less that THAT intelligence".

Most of the contents in the books seemed unnecessary to me. It is mainly the author just rambling on and on about all the stories he heard in all his life of other people (or at least, it seems like it) and how that relates to emotional intelligence. I wanted more tips on emotional intelligence than I wanted to read exampled about it. But here are some excerpts that I like. The first one is on focusing on the emotion behind what someone says, more than the content of their message. ...

."TOXIC THOUGHTS

The children are being rambunctious, and Martin, their father, is getting annoyed. He turns to his wife, Melanie, and says in a sharp tone, "Dear, don't you think the kids could quiet down?"

His actual thought: "She's too easy on the kids."

Melanie, responding to his ire, feels a surge of anger. Her face grows taut, her brows knit in a frown, and she replies, "The kids are having a good time. Anyhow, they'll be going up to bed soon."

Her thought: "There he goes again, complaining all the time."

Martin now is visibly enraged. He leans forward menacingly, his fists clenched, as he says in an annoyed tone, "Should I put them to bed now?"

His thought: "She opposes me in everything. I'd better take over."

Melanie, suddenly frightened by Martin's wrath, says meekly, "No, I'll put them to bed right away."

Her thought: "He's getting out of control—he could hurt the kids. I'd better give in.""""..

And this one is just an excerpt I wanted to remember because I've tried cognitive therapy with psychologists and this line made me understand how important it is to keep practicing being mindful of the tricks my mind plays on me-

"Joseph LeDoux, the neuroscientist who discovered the amygdala's hair-trigger role in emotional outbursts, conjectures, "Once your emotional system learns something, it seems you never let it go. What therapy does is teach you to control it—it teaches your neocortex how to inhibit your amygdala. The propensity to act is suppressed, while your basic emotion about it remains in a subdued form."" " ...more

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Sep 12, 2010 Lize rated it liked it

Shelves: 2010, nonfiction, psychology

When I first read this book in 1995--the year it was published--it was required reading for my job in human resources consulting, and I found it amazing and insightful. Fifteen years later it still has some good things to say, but knowing how we've not only ignored Goleman's advice but actually run in the opposite direction (empathy, anyone?) it just made me sad.

The book concerns itself with a key set of characteristics he calls 'emotional intelligence': abilities such as being able to motivate ...more

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Jul 27, 2011 Wendy Yu rated it really liked it

The funny thing about reading old seminal books that have already made their point is that your natural attitude toward their genius society-shaking discoveries is "duh"

Emotions are important. duh.
Emotional competence is a better predictor of success than intelligence. duh!
Once you recognize your emotions, they lose their power, as you are more able to manage with reason. duh! duh!
Anger works like Super Mario Bros., triggering events in quick succession cause you to jump up higher and higher un ...more

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May 19, 2012 Fatima abuzaied rated it liked it · review of another edition

ربما ما ينقصنا في هذا العالم المعقد القدرة على السيطرة على انفعالاتنا ... يتكلم جولمان في كتابه عن علاقة الذكاء وعدمه وفي التاثير على انفعالاتنا ... يربط ذلك فسيولوجيا دماغ الانسان ...
فقد اثبت علميا ان الكثير من الاذكياء دراسيا هم اغبياء اجتماعيا... على النقيض هناك ممن اعتبرهم اغبياء دراسيا كانوا اذكياء عاطفيا ..
وعليه يرى جولمان انه من الضروري ان يتم تعليم الذكاء العاطفي في المدارس كما يتم دراسة القراءة والكتابة والحساب...

يعرض الكثير من المشاكل التي تواجه المجتمع؛ الاطفال,الازاواج ,مشاكل العمل , ...more

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Author of Emotional Intelligence and psychologist Daniel Goleman has transformed the way the world educates children, relates to family and friends, and conducts business. The Wall Street Journal ranked him one of the 10 most influential business thinkers.

Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence was on The New York Times best sellers list for a year-and-a-half. Named one of the 25 "Most Influential Busine ...more